In today’s frantic planet, learning to meditate can bring a feel of quietand interior satisfaction. The practice of meditation is a doorway into your inner consciousness, resulting in an superior awareness of your own existence and your overall relationship to the cosmos.

Whether you are searching to answer the age-old query, ‘Who am I and why am I here?’ or merely to put into practice straightforward relaxation techniques meditation may just be the answer for you.

Although there are hundreds of recognized techniques how to meditate is in fact up to the individual. You can select and choose among diverse schools of thought and locate a method that best suits your personality. However, although meditation has manydiverse cultural contexts, there are certain general facets which go beyond the limits of any one specific society.

According to Eastern philosophy, to meditate means to believe in the eternal, or to a certain extent to enlarge your consciousness until you are at one with the cosmos as a whole. 

Transcendental emotions like grief, excitement or even love can die away, but the universe is everlastingly. Finally, with practice, learning to meditate can get you in closer attunement with the very source and purpose of existence itself.

Even if you are not concerned in the metaphysical implications of meditation, meditating has irrefutable health benefits. Learning to meditate can have positive outcomes on stress induced illness such as heart disease and high blood pressure. In combination with conventional Western approaches to medicine, meditation can aim for the root causes behind stress-based conditions by calming and clearing the mind.

There are lots of relaxation methods meditation incorporates. You can meditate sitting, standing up or lying down, in a chair or on the ground. Learning how to meditate is not tricky. There are many programs online that can teach you on the fundamentals and help to get you started. These programs can direct you each step of the meditation procedure, provide tips on suitable posture and tutor you how to generate the ideal location for your meditation gathering.

One Answer….for all questions - This too will pass…

   This meditation technique is quite different from thje conventional meditation techniques. This technique is actually a contemplation exercise and involves thinking over life. Though people of all age can try this technique, it is basically suitable for people with mature age (I mean 18 & above). The reason is that only those who have lived a certain (substantial) duration of life can reflect back on their past. Very young people who are still in the initial phase of their life are less likely (though not impossible) to analyze their life from the angle which this meditation demands. Nevertheless, this meditation technique is very useful for knowing our true self.

Method:   

First read this thought provoking story :- 

Once a king called upon all of his wise men and asked them,

” Is there a mantra or suggestion which works in every situation, in every circumstances, in every place and in every time. Something which can help me when none of you is available to advise me. Tell me is there any mantra?”

All wise men got puzzled by King’s question. One answer for all question? Something that works everywhere, in every situation? In every joy every sorrow, every defeat and every victory? They thought and thought. After a lengthy discussion, an old man suggested something which appeal to all of them. They went to king and gave him something written on paper. But the condition was that king was not to see it out of curiosity. Only in extreme danger, when the King finds himself alone and there seems to be no way, only then he’ll have to see it. The King put the papers under his Diamond ring.

After a few days, the neighbors attack the Kingdom. It was a collective surprise attack of King’s enemies. King and his army fought bravely but lost the battle. King had to fled on his horse. The enemies were following him. His horse took him  far away in Jungle. He could hear many troops of horses were following him and the noise was coming closer and closer. Suddenly the King found himself standing in the end of the road - that road was not going anywhere. Underneath there was a rocky valley thousand feet deep. If he jumped into it, he would be finished…and he could not return because it was a small road…From back the sound of enemy’s horses was approaching fast. King became restless. There seemed to be no way.

Then suddenly he saw the Diamond in his ring shining in the sun, and he remembered the message hidden in the ring. He opened the diamond and read the message. The message was very small but very great.

The message was - ” This too will pass.”

The King read it . Again read it. Suddenly something strike in his mind- Yes ! it too will pass. Only a few days ago, I was enjoying my kingdom. I was the mightiest of all the Kings. Yet today, the Kingdom and all his pleasure have gone. I am here trying to escape from enemies. However when those days of luxuries have gone, this day of danger too will pass. A calm come on his face. He kept standing there. The place where he was standing was full of natural beauty. He had never known that such a beautiful place was also a part of his Kingdom. The revelation of message had a great effect on him. He relaxed and forget about those following him. After a few minute he realized that the noise of the horses and the enemy coming was receding. They moved into some other part of the mountains and were not on that path.

The King was very brave. He reorganized his army and fought again. He defeated the enemy and regain his lost empire. When he returned to his empire after victory, he was received with much fan fare at the door. The whole capital was rejoicing in the victory. Everyone was in a festive mood. Flowers were being thrown on King from every house, from every corner. People were dancing and singing. For a moment King said to himself,” I am one of the bravest and greatest King. It is not easy to defeat me.: With all the reception and celebration he saw an ego emerging in him.

Suddenly the Diamond of his ring flashed in the sunlight and reminded him of the message. He open it and read it again: “This too will pass”

He became silent. His face went through a total change -from the egoist he moved to a state of utter humbleness.

If this too is going to pass, it is not yours.

The defeat was not yours, the victory is not yours.

You are just a watcher. Everything passes by

We are witness of all this. We are the perceiver. Life come and go. Happiness come and go. Sorrow come and go.

Now as you have read this story, just sit silently and evaluate your own life. This too will pass. Think of the moments of joy and victory in your life. Think of the moment of Sorrow and defeat. Are they permanent. They all come and pass away. Life just passes away.

There were friends in past. They all have gone.

There are friends today. They too will go.

There will be new friends tomorrow. They too will go. 

There were enemies in past. They have gone.

There may be enemy in present. They too will go.

There will be new enemies tomorrow and……they too will go.

There is nothing permanent in this world. Every thing changes except the law of change. Think over it from your own perspective. You have seen all the changes. You have survived all setbacks , all defeats and all sorrows. All have passed away. If there are problems in the present, they too will pass away. Because nothing remains forever. Joy and sorrow are the two faces of the same coin. They both will pass away. Who are you in reality? Know your real face. Your face is not your true face. It will change with the time. However, there is something in you, which will not change. It will remain unchanged.  What is that unchangeable ? It is nothing but your true self.

You are just a witness of change. Experience it, understand it.

Everyday for 10-15 minutes sit in silence. Just think over the sentence, ” This too will pass.” Pondering over your own life will make you realize the true meaning of this sentence. Everything passes yet your real identity remains the same. That real you is your true self. To know that self is true meditation.

There are certain Neuro-linguistic Programming [NLP] skills that you need to master to be competent in this field. Some of them are: 

Calibration: This means reading people’s mind. You must have met some people who thought you were upset though you may have been very happy at that time. They failed to properly calibrate your feelings. Calibration involves reading what’s going on in a person’s mind no matter what physical actions he may be displaying. In the World Poker Championship, there’s a lot of calibration. Here, people constantly calibrate people’s behavior and judge who is bluffing and who really is in a strong position.

Detection of patterns: Patterns are the base of NLP. But there often lies a confusion regarding the exact implication of the word “pattern”. In simple words, pattern means the prediction of events which are to follow, based on what has happened. For instance, a child may observe his dad to eat his breakfast at 8 in the morning. He notices this continuously. The next time, when it strikes 8, he predicts that his dad would come out for breakfast, and he does! That’s it, the child has been able to detect a pattern. Then, this skill of pattern detection must be applied for bettering your performance.

Proper questioning: Whatever information that you would get has a direct relation with the kind of question you have put forward. So constantly work on your ability to ask proper questions. Ask questions that are precise, involving, relevant and specific. Besides, there must be full clarity in the question and must not be capable of having diverse meanings. If the question is such, the intended meaning should be communicated to the other party.

Reading the other party’s eyes: Search for “eye accessing cues” on Google if you do not have a fair deal of idea regarding eye accessing cues. As far as my knowledge is concerned, this term – eye accessing cues – is used exclusively in NLP. As you become a master of this skill, you will be able to relate to the other person, and feel what he might be thinking. You also will be able to appreciate what they might be thinking about at the back of their mind.

Having mentioned a few points essential for developing your NLP skills, it must be said that these are not exhaustive. The four points mentioned above just list the basic requirements where you should focus your attention on, by regular practice. There are several other points which you must adhere to!

Although we live in a crowded world, we are more like living in our own spaces. This is more or less true for every person on the planet. In our daily reoutines, we contact and interact with lots of people including our family, friends and colleagues. We also have some kind of relations with totally strangers. The point that I want to mention here is, we keep seeing ourselves from the eyes of other people and never completely look at ourselves completey from a our point of view.

Our mind is full of the following ideas in the course of the day: ”Will they like me?”, “Am I going to make a mistake?”, “Does he think that I am beautiful?”, “I am nothing in their eyes.”, “They don’t respect me.” And those are the ideas what restrain ourselves from being the true us.

Yes, what I am talking here is to realize the true yourself inside you and let it come outside without worrying about such questions and ideas anymore. Stop seeing your faults, your flaws, the things that you couldn’t achieve. Instead, start focusing on the things that you are good at, the ways you are unique from other people and make your life better from now on.

Below, I listed a number of websites that you can further read and and continue your research on self growth and self improvement issues:

• Self Help - The Wikipedia article.
• Self Growth - Self Improvement Articles and Videos
• Self Improvement Articles on EzineArticles.com
• Solve Your Problem - Self Improvement and Self Help Tips

Self improvement is a large topic that a lot of people are doing research and trying to help others reach their goals. One product that I want to mention here is Neuro Programmer. The following website, awakening mind, has a detailed review about it.